伊能静谈与庾澄庆婚变原因 结婚时“还在伤痛里”

时间:2020-10-23 22:40:21阅读:3747
据台媒报道,伊能静曾跟庾澄庆有过一段婚姻,但结婚9年就选择分开,直到2015年,才又嫁给现在的老公秦昊。她最近上谈话节目,难得说起跟哈林的那段婚姻,透露当时还处在原生家庭造成的伤痛中,导致没能感受到安

据台媒报道,伊能静曾跟庾澄庆有过一段婚姻,但结婚9年就选择分开,直到2015年,才又嫁给现在的老公秦昊。她最近上谈话节目,难得说起跟哈林的那段婚姻,透露当时还处在原生家庭造成的伤痛中,导致没能感受到安全感,“我自己还没有那个智慧和状态。”

伊能静录制好友鲁豫的节目,除了带对方参观台北,也聊起自己的家庭和婚姻。她透露,因为生父的心没有定在台湾,以至于她成长过程中很缺乏父爱,小时候没察觉,直到遇见现在的老公秦昊和公公之后,才意识到人生中一直缺少决策者,也导致自己少了一点做决定的能力。

对于婚姻,伊能静直言,能不能得到安全感,其实主要还是看自己。她回忆跟哈林组成家庭的日子:”我应该要很有安全感的,可是我那时候没有把自己修练好。因为我还太……太在那个伤痛里面,那种家庭的伤痛、跟妈妈没有和解、很紧绷的状态里面,我自己还没有那个智慧和状态。”跟哈林离婚之后,伊能静经历了5年的单身时期,这段时间每天面对自己,也反思到底哪里出问题。她在还没成熟的年纪就开始工作,又处在演艺圈这么复杂的环境,所以一但遇到一个可靠的人,就像抓住浮木,希望对方帮自己解决所有痛苦和问题,却造成别人沉重的压力。

伊能静自认是个善良的人,并不想造成伤害,却在不知不觉中,还是创造出让人受到伤害的氛围,花了5年时间思索,最后才意识到自己的根本问题就是“智慧不够”。但她现在跟秦昊结了婚,开始慢慢转变心态,终于能接纳自己,“我觉得我现在不需要被理解,而且打从心底不需要被理解了。”

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